When a divorce begin, many are upset. They are emotional. They might even be angry. Events that led up to the divorce can cause a wide-range of emotions.

These emotions can cause lots of parties to march into the courtroom to litigate their divorce. Before long, discovery has been issued. Subpoenas are flying. Depositions might be taking place. There can also be court dates from pre-trial conference, settlement conferences and eventually a trial date.

For many parties, the emotions might eventually level off. The anger that might have originally been there when the case began might be giving way. A party might have moved on to acceptance. They just want the case to eventually end. They might feel as if the attorneys’ fees and litigation costs were not worth it.

Many also realize after a case progresses that there are rarely any winner or losers in the family court. In fact, almost everybody can feel like a loser to a certain degree. In a litigated case, it might be more about who loses less.

Instead of charging into a litigated divorce due to anger and other emotions, for some parties, they might be wise to pull back. They might need to really assess their options. They might need to talk to a counselor or other trusted advisor.

In doing that, some parties realize that a litigated divorce is not the best path for them and their family. Instead, collaborative divorce is another option that should be considered. In collaborative divorce, a divorce coach can also help in terms of the anger or other emotions that are out there to help parties get to a place of settlement.