In the modern world, social media gives us outlets to share thoughts, experiences and feelings instantaneously with a broad audience. While this is, in many cases, a good thing, it can also wreak havoc on a divorce proceeding. The strategies used by divorcing spouses to obtain the best possible settlement often hinge on arguments regarding lifestyle and financial conditions. A poorly thought-out tweet or Facebook post can provide immediate evidence contradicting your carefully planned case.
What not to do online during a divorce
Social media poses such a threat to the legal standing of divorcing spouses that some family attorneys have devoted entire sections of books towards controlling online behavior during a separation. At the end of the day, however, many of the rules about how to behave on social media during a divorce boil down to common sense:
Do not post pictures of expensive vacations or purchases if your legal arguments contend you face a serious financial hardship.
Do not post angry or abusive posts about your ex.
Post nothing involving drinking, excessive partying or other such behavior if you wish to seek custody of your children
Should I avoid social media altogether during my divorce?
If you can completely avoid social media during your divorce case, it might not be a bad idea. But if you cannot, heed some simple advice:
Never let your friends tag you in photos or posts, as you cannot control what they say in such posts.
Avoid going online immediately after a court appearance, when your emotions may run high.
Avoid new online friends, who may intend to spy on you.