Choosing Personal Over Social Networking


Networking at group functions, in my opinion, is extremely difficult for new lawyers. Many in the group already know each other, but you don’t know anyone. You want to meet people, but don’t want to intrude into a group of people already conversing, and you are leery of being blindsided by the dreaded “I’ve got a situation…” question if you don’t know the answer. So hanging out by yourself or with others your own age seems to be where most new lawyers find themselves.

I’m writing this in the middle of January when snow is on the ground and lingering Christmas decorations still adorn rarely used portions of my house. A new year brings new hopes and new goals.

Some people decide to eat healthier. For me, that goal lasts until college football bowl season – when a dozen “must watch” games occur in the first week of January. My goal to exercise also dwindles a few weeks into the new year because it’s just too cold, or too dark, or the gym is too crowded, or there are too many college football bowl games to watch, or … you get the idea.

Law firms frequently use the beginning of the year to reflect on the past year’s clients, cases, business contacts and marketing endeavors.

Well-intentioned lawyers determine ways to increase all of the above; some seek writing opportunities, or opportunities to educate others through speaking at seminars or being quoted in publications. Some lawyers join non-profit boards that provide professional exposure as well as altruistically helping a cause dear to their hearts. Many attorneys enthralled by social media have LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook and other accounts that they diligently manage. Still others subscribe to the time honored tradition of networking through breakfasts, lunches, after work drinks and mingling at various trade association events.

Whether writing, speaking, joining boards, engaging in social media or mingling, the goal is the same: increase your exposure and, via that exposure, ultimately, increase your client base. Sounds easy, right? Although the ease of achieving those goals is individual, with the right dedication and expectations, you can and will increase your

client base – regardless of whether the increase is from zero clients to a handful or from several clients to so many that you need your own associates to keep up with your


Young lawyers, who are overachievers by nature, frequently put the cart before the horse. Especially in today’s society where we seek immediate gratification, attorneys often expect instantaneous results from networking. I created a LinkedIn profile, so I should have clients. I tweet, so I should have clients. I spoke at a trade association, so I should have

clients. Unfortunately, the world of lawyering does not work that way.

Clients must be earned and networking is an art that very few have mastered. I have not mastered it, but I enjoy networking and will share what has and has not worked for me in the past.

First, your expectations must be tempered. New lawyers are by definition inexperienced, and who wants to spend money on an inexperienced attorney? Certainly not me. In fact, I don’t hire inexperienced doctors, bankers or repairmen and I don’t expect them to hire me.

New lawyers are also typically young, perhaps even the age of their prospective clients’ children or grandchildren. And not

until wrinkles adorn your face or your hair is grey (or missing) will some people find you worthy as an attorney. While your age and physical features may make landing clients

more challenging, you shouldn’t sit idle while other baby-faced rookies network.

Second, make personal connections with prospective clients. New lawyers are incredibly efficient at social media, and

combining your Facebook friends with your LinkedIn connections and your Twitter followers, you are likely cyber-related to hundreds or thousands of people. But lawyers are not hired for our prowess at communicating in 160 characters or less. We are hired because our clients believe we are competent at what we do, and for that, potential clients must either know us personally, or trust a referral source who

knows us personally.

So get out from behind the keyboard and meet people. Meet them anywhere and at any time. Avery successful attorney who has mastered the art of networking told me that he sometimes has two breakfasts in the morning with two different prospective clients.

These meetings are not for you to sell yourself as a lawyer; they are to actually get to know the person behind the Internet profile. Just who is @MHJones?

Remember to temper your expectations, though. As wonderful and intelligent as you think you are, not everyone will want to meet you – some will think you’re meeting to sell your legal services, others will think you’re making romantic advances and some are just leery of actually meeting a stranger.

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